The Stink of Being Single

The Stink of Being Single

I’ve been wondering why I have been so resistant to the label “single.” Here’s what I came up with: I feel like being single is a flashlight to the world that something is wrong with me. If I was all right, I’d be plugged into the traditional institution of marriage,...
Ten Years of Therapy

Ten Years of Therapy

Thank you to all those people who have suggested that I need therapy. I so appreciate your kindness and concern. I also have this to say: Please refer to my first post where I said that I have no answers when it comes to love— I meant it. Maybe you now understand I...
Bonus for Dating Chocolate

Bonus for Dating Chocolate

I come from an ultra-conservative upbringing, an ultra-conservative community that consists of 99% white. That’s my background. I recently moved to California, which filled my eyesight with a lot more color. Soon after, I was also filled with a ton of divorce...
Committed More Painful

Committed More Painful

Please explain something.  Why is fighting with someone you are in a committed relationship with more painful than fighting with a spouse?  Shouldn’t it be the other way around?  When you fight with a spouse,  shouldn’t it hurt more because you have more years...
90- Day Man Fast

90- Day Man Fast

I have a lot of well-meaning friends who have approached me with what they think is a wonderful idea and will solve all my problems.  What is their solution?  That I go on a 90-Day Man-Fast.  They say that with me going 90 days without men in my life, I will learn all...